Growth is painful because of we been avoiding a thousand and one pains in our life. By avoiding that we cannot destroy them as they go on accumulating ,swallowing our pains they remain in our system. That’s why growth is painful when we start growing, when we decide to grow we have to face all the pains that we have repressed as we cannot just bypass them. Unfortunately not a single society has existed on the earth which has not been repressive of pain. All societies depend on repression. Two things they repress and teach.. one is pain another is pleasure. Their reasoning is stupid as they say that if we are not too happy we will never become too unhappy; if joy is destroyed we will never be deep in pain. Therefore they avoid pain and also avoid pleasure simply like avoiding death to avoid life.
But pain and pleasure grow together — if we really want to have a life of ecstasy we will also have to accept many agonies. If we want the peaks of the Himalayas we will have to cross the valleys. Instead of repressing we need to learn to enjoy both — the peak is as beautiful ,so is the valley. We need to learn enjoy the peak and learn to relax in the valley. Only after darkness can light come.
A tree cannot grow without roots and the roots have to move deep into the soil. Pain and pleasure are intrinsic parts of life and by accepting and knowing this a real growth in us is possible.” May all beings grow”.